You are beautiful. You can do anything you put your mind to. You deserve to be loved!
Besides sounding like the cheesiest sayings you would ever hear on the back of a Hallmark card, they’re also three of the most popular choices for daily affirmations.
What are affirmations, exactly? They’re basically little motivational sayings that spiritual people say to themselves in repeat each day for reassurance that they’re wonderful people. Well no offense to the people who do that, but can’t you remind yourself that you’re a good person without having to say it 80 times a day? When you do that, you’re not so much reminding yourself as you are convincing yourself, no?
It seems like a lot of my friends who are on free dating sites seem to do this, but I don’t understand why. Is it because you feel bad that you’re on a dating site? If that’s the case, knock it off! There are millions of people a day that log onto dating sites! It’s the most advanced place to meet people, and last year more people got married who met through online dating than they did meeting organically or were a part of an arranged marriage (which I was surprised to find out still has an extremely high number!). In the online datingworld, there’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Unlike the stigma it carried in the ’90s, online dating isn’t just for people who can’t find a date. It’s for those too busy to date, those who are recently single, those looking for better options, those who don’t want to be judged on their looks (whether good or not so much), and even those who are looking to connect with someone outside of their country. Online dating is now for the masses, not for the few who are sick of being alone on Friday nights.
If you’re doing affirmations because you saw a segment about them on Oprah and thought it would make you feel better about your online dating, then you need to back away from that mirror immediately! They should be something to do to make you feel better about yourself, not something you do to make you feel good about yourself in the first place. If you’re doing them because it truly makes you feel better, then enjoy. But if you’re doing it because you don’t feel good about yourself to begin with, then you need a new routine, my friend. Fresh air and a more mentally stimulating environment will be of better service to you than a few happy-go-lucky words.
In my opinion, you don’t need affirmations. If you’re as great of a person as you tell your reflection, then you don’t need to do it! You already know. Take that spare time in the morning to work on your mental health, not just your mood.