Instead of trying to dissect what they’re typing and what it really means, put thought into how they’re typing it.

What is their profession?

Believe it or not, the best hint to what their internet body language is saying can be found in their profession. If he’s someone like a lawyer or writer that is expected to have proper vocabulary and you find him using slang in your conversations, that’s probably his way of relaxing around you. If he’s someone in a less educated profession and you find him using larger than average words, it could be his way of trying to impress you!

Take a look at the emoticons they use.

This is one you’ll find especially in males. When men type, it’s not instinct to add in a smiley face or wink. If you find that someone is adding ‘:)’s’ after their hellos or a witty sentence, it’s trying to emphasize friendliness and better communication. Having those in conversations is the online dating equivalent of touching someones arm in the real world.

When do they sign off?

If someone has genuine interest in pursuing an online relationship with you, they’ll always want to leave with a good impression. If you’re constantly getting a ‘well nice talking to you, ttyl,’ his interest isn’t very deep. If he’s taking time to give you a sincere sign off, it’s probably his way of keeping the door open so he can have more contact with you. A digital kiss goodnight, if you will!

People put a lot of thought into what they’re saying online.  It’s not like when you’re face to face and you have to say something on the spot before thinking it over. That’s essentially one of the joys of online dating- you have the opportunity to think before you speak! To be honest, if you notice the messages you are getting are short and meaningless, you will probably want to move onto your the next person. If you’re getting messages that are fun and interesting, then you have a flirter who is more than likely into you!

If your main goal in Internet dating is simply ‘Don’t get rejected,’ here a few things you may want to start avoiding!

“When you like all the same things, you’re never thinking outside the box you’re used to. Your partner isn’t stimulating you like they should. When you date someone, you want to experience new things and learn different ways of life,” says Oxford professor Jane Walkup.

When you start your dating site search, it’s normal to be confused on where you should start. Do you look for someone who wants a long term relationship, or do you take anything that comes your way?

You need to know what you want before you start using online dating sites.

Most people start their online dating journey blindly. They don’t know who to send messages to, they don’t know what they have to offer and, most of the time, they don’t even know if online dating is something they’re interested in.

Before you sign up for an online dating site, take time to think about what you want. Make a list of personality traits you’re looking for in people, ones you’re not, and factors that you’re not comfortable budging in. Are you alright with dating a single parent? What about dating someone much younger than yourself? Or much older? Decide in advance the answers to crucial questions like these so you can confidently react when you’re put into those situations. If you set your age limit to dating someone within a 10 year radius of yourself, you know not to waste the time of people who are 18 years older than you and trying to pursue you.

Knowing what you want can not only save you time when dating online, but it can save hurt feelings from others online. Let’s say that someone who is looking for a serious relationship starts talking to you online. You spend a few weeks speaking back and fourth, but then decide that you want to branch out and see other people as well. There’s a good chance that the other person has already invested feelings into your relationship, and by saying no you end up hurting them.

Knowing what you want will lead you in the right direction and prevent you from going off path when in your journey to find a suitable match!

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When you’re using a dating site, how do you find the people who are just looking for friends?

Change your settings
Most dating websites have an option to state what you’re looking for. Things like ‘Men seeking women’, ‘Women seeking men’, ‘Men seeking men’ and ‘Men seeking women’ are among the most common, but they’re not the only options! There are often choices like ‘Looking for friends’ and ‘Not looking for anything serious’ that will let people know that you’re just looking for a pal. People go on sites specifically looking for people who have that as their ‘Interested in’ option, so make sure you take advantage of it!

Choose your profile picture carefully
You don’t want your picture to be suggestive if you’re just looking for a friend. Cut back on the cleavage and  skin shots, and stick to pictures that let your personality shine!

Be clear in your ‘about me’ section
For websites that don’t have a clear ‘Interested in’ section, you can write that you’re just looking for something platonic in your about me section!

If you’re new to the area, make it known
When people are new to town, they want to meet as many people as possible to create a new network of friends. When you let others know you’re new to town, it gives them the cue that you’re genuine in wanting to meet platonic friends to show them around.

If you’re looking to simply add a few new people to your list of friends, dating sites are the perfect place to start!

First and foremost is your grooming. If you show up to the date looking anything less than your best, then you might as well not show up at all. This is your only time to make a first impression, and trust me, you want them to remember you looking your best. This doesn’t just include looking nice, but smelling nice and even feeling nice as well. When you go in for a hug, the last thing you want them to feel is stubble graze their face! Grooming the little things like facial hair and eyebrows is just as important as wearing an appropriate outfit and smelling nice. You don’t want to wear a cocktail dress if you’re going mini putting, and you don’t want to smell like you dumped the entire bottle of perfume on yourself if you’re going to be in an enclosed space. Keeping everything both appropriate and attractive is key to your appearance.

Once they see you, you have to be aware of what comes out of your mouth. No one wants to hear your life story on your first time meeting! Gauge the situation and only talk about things that seem fit. If you’re having a great, fun conversation, there’s no need to bring up how sad you were when you dog died last year, or how your parents divorce had you depressed when you were in high school. Keep your talking to witty antidotes that relate to the topic at and, and remember to not over share!

Although you want to show your best self, you don’t want to show a ‘best’ that’s simply not you. Show your true colors so they know what they’re going to see when they date you in the future! This is especially important if you’re going out with someone you met on an online datingsite. You want to be the same person they’ve been talking to. It will make the date feel more natural and will probably rid you both of first date jitters!

If you keep your calm on your first date, be presentable and show your best you, you’ll make a great first impression!

The most important thing you have to do when meeting the new guys family is not to judge. What you consider normal may be extremely odd for them, so judging them will only result in you opening the door for them to judge you. Always meet the family with an open mind.

If the person you’re dating has openly talked about how his family is a little off the wall, find comfort in the fact that they raised him! If you get along so well with this person, the values and personality traits that he has comes from this family, so knowing they’re capable of producing something you like should put your mind at ease.

Once you’re with them, find a common ground. Picking out similar interests will make the conversation easier, and will allow you to  look at them in a positive light, regardless of how ‘wild’ you’ve been braced to expect.

Crazy families are a dime a dozen, and you’re likely to run into a few during your dating career.Approach the situation delicately and remember to be nice, if all goes well they could be your family one day!

Just because someone doesn’t message you back in your desired time frame doesn’t mean that they’re uninterested. There’s countless reasons for someone to not respond to your initial message, and getting discouraged should be the last thing you do.

Online dating sites often showcase active users on their home pages. This means that if they’re on there, every person that logs in is going to see their profile link. With so many people seeing it, you can only imagine the amount of messages they would get in a day. The fact of the matter is that they’d be unable to answer so many messages. When online daters get too many messages, they usually only read and respond to the first few, which means if you were one of the unlucky ones to answer later on, your message could be left in the dust. Simply send a follow up message saying you had said hello before and wanted to insure he had received it. This way it gives him the opportunity to be reminded of you, and shows that you have enough interest to pursue him twice.

It’s good to remember that not everyone on internet dating sites are as invested as others. Some people sign up out of simple curiosity, and others do it to see what kind of response they get. These people tend to message no one back, as they didn’t intend to in the first place, but if you send them a message intriguing enough, there’s a good chance that what you say will be enough to get a message in return.

Then there’s the others that need to be wooed! Everyone likes to know that they have admirers, and won’t settle for anything less than positive attention. Sending a follow up message with why you want to talk to him (you liked his profile, you think he’s attractive, you think you’d get along well, etc), will stroke their ego just enough that they’ll want to message you back, instead of the other people that had only messaged him with information about themselves.

There’s many reasons message remain unanswered, but you’re likely to get a response if you do the follow-up. It’s never too late to put effort in to make the connection, so keep trying and eventually you’ll get the response you’re looking for!

Just because someone doesn’t message you back in your desired time frame doesn’t mean that they’re uninterested. There’s countless reasons for someone to not respond to your initial message, and getting discouraged should be the last thing you do.

Online dating sites often showcase active users on their home pages. This means that if they’re on there, every person that logs in is going to see their profile link. With so many people seeing it, you can only imagine the amount of messages they would get in a day. The fact of the matter is that they’d be unable to answer so many messages. When online daters get too many messages, they usually only read and respond to the first few, which means if you were one of the unlucky ones to answer later on, your message could be left in the dust. Simply send a follow up message saying you had said hello before and wanted to insure he had received it. This way it gives him the opportunity to be reminded of you, and shows that you have enough interest to pursue him twice.

It’s good to remember that not everyone on internet dating sites are as invested as others. Some people sign up out of simple curiosity, and others do it to see what kind of response they get. These people tend to message no one back, as they didn’t intend to in the first place, but if you send them a message intriguing enough, there’s a good chance that what you say will be enough to get a message in return.

Then there’s the others that need to be wooed! Everyone likes to know that they have admirers, and won’t settle for anything less than positive attention. Sending a follow up message with why you want to talk to him (you liked his profile, you think he’s attractive, you think you’d get along well, etc), will stroke their ego just enough that they’ll want to message you back, instead of the other people that had only messaged him with information about themselves.

There’s many reasons message remain unanswered, but you’re likely to get a response if you do the follow-up. It’s never too late to put effort in to make the connection, so keep trying and eventually you’ll get the response you’re looking for!

When you venture away from online datingto meet singles, chances are your location of choice is going to be the bar. Why do I say that? Because it’s not just your location of choice, it seems to be everyones!

In a room where it’s inevitable you’re going to have competition from other singles looking for a date, you need to insure you stand out! These are the best ways to make sure you’re above the rest when trying to pick up at the local watering hole.

Remember The Rule Of 3s

When you’re going fishing at the bar, you need to be aware of who you bring. Going by yourself is the best way to attract attention as people won’t have to worry about competing with your friends. If you bring only one other person, it’s going to be hard for people to approach you without worrying about making your friend feel left out. If you bring four or more, then the group as a whole is going to be intimidating to penetrate and start a conversation with. If you really want to make yourself approachable, go in a group of three. People see that as one person to talk to while the two other people can distract themselves.

If You’re Female, Order A  Strong Drink. If You’re A Male, Order A Beer.

Men like to see a woman who can order a ‘real’ drink. Anything straight up or on the rocks will give men the impression that you mean business, and that you’d be able to hold your own in a relationship, which is something they look for, while ladies like a man who can be traditional, hence them being attracted to men ordering a simple beer.

Let Girls Be The Ones To Send Drinks

If a man is holding a conversation with a woman, he can surely offer to get her another drink, but sending one from the bartender without talking to her first can be the wrong first signal. If a girl sends a guy a drink, it’s less common and doesn’t come with the they’re-just-trying-to-sleep-with-me stigma.

Talk To The Bartender

People view others who can strike up a conversation with the bartender as open and friendly; qualities which people instinctively look for when they’re on the dating search.

“Hey, did you grow up in…?”

Even if you’ve never seen the person before in your life, it’s an easy way to break the ice and doesn’t seem like a cheesy pickup like. If you ask if they grew up where you did, they’ll likely respond with, “No, I grew up in ___. Are you from there?” And so begins a great organic conversation that can spark many other topics of interest!

The bar is an easy place to meet new people, so utilize it to it’s fullest potential!