I often get people asking me what to do when a relationship gets boring. People complain that they’ve lost that spark that made them so compatible i the first place, and now their relationship is too ‘familiar.’ Well friends, although you may think you think that way, you really don’t.
Let me explain…
When you’re first dating, you’re still getting to know each other. It’s easy to disagree on topics, and those disagreements can start little arguments about almost anything. When you start to get comfortable with one another, you know what they like and what they dislike, so those small fights are easier to avoid. The longer you go without them, the more likely you are to forget what they felt like. Instead of remembering the frustration, you only remember the fire that came along with it, which is usually looked back upon as passion instead of anger.
If you’re dating someone you don’t need to worry about arguing with, you should consider yourself lucky! Finding someone that you get along with that well should be a good thing, not a reason to miss fighting.
Unlike what we’ve learned from 8 seasons of Sex and the City, you don’t need drama to make a relationship work. It’s always the couples with constant drama that end up in therapy together or worse, at the courthouse finalizing their divorce.
Whether it’s someone you’re seeing on an online dating site or someone you’ve been dating offline, drama is never a necessary ingredient to make a relationship work.