Whether you’re chatting with a someone from a mainstream dating site, an adult dating site or a gay dating site, it makes no difference when going on a first date. While the end goal might be a tad different, the logistics are all the same; you want to make sure everything goes smoothly so you get a second date, you get laid, you get an end of the night kiss, you have an exit straggly if it’s a bust, etc.
So! In order to ensure that your goals are met you must pan things out PROPERLY so that things go the way you want them to.
And the only way to do this is to follow these simple steps:
Meet sooner rather than later:
Sure, online dating is a great way to MEET people, not a great way to get to know someone. Start off by sending a few messages back and fourth but don’t wait too long before you ask them to meet in person; it’s a waste of time! The only way to truly tell if you’re going to connect is in person, so don’t be a chicken shit. See if you have anything in common, and then ask her out!
Don’t think of it as a date:
When you’re chatting with someone online, they might seem like the coolest, wittiest person ever. Remember that when you’re sending messages, you have time to come up with a clever response. So, keep that in mind when you meet in person. They might not be what you’re expecting. Therefore, don’t think of it as an actual date. Think of it as a pre-date/interview to see if you want to go with them on a real date.
Don’t share too much personal information ad pick a public place so that in case things turn sour, you’re not with this freak in a dark alley somewhere. If things do go well, use your judgement. If you think bringing them home is a good idea, go for it! Just make sure you have a friend you can update on your whereabouts. You’d rather be safe than sorry!
Listen and ask questions:
This is your chance to really get to know this person! Listen to what they have to say. Then you can ask appropriate questions depending on the topic of conversation. It will show that you’re interested and that you actually care what they have to say. Plus, if they say something absorb, you’re going to want to remember it so you know to never go out with them again.
If you’re a dude, than I’m sorry, but it is your duty to pay. If she offers to pay, say NO! I don’t care if you never want to see this chick again, you still have to pay fellas.
If you had a good time on your date, make sure you follow up. Don’t do this immediately after the date. I would say your best bet is to send a quick text or email the next day just to remind the person that you had a good time. This will set the tone that you want to see them again. Even if you end up having sex with this person, and you want to do it again, you should send a follow up text. If you never want to see them again, you don’t have to say anything. That;s the beauty of online dating.
Some experts say that even if you’re not interested in the person, you should let them know this. I completely disagree. Of course you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but you don’t have to see them again if you don’t want to, no explanation needed!
Your first conversation online may be what attracts their attention, but it’s your first date offline that makes the lasting impression! Everyone remembers the first moment they see the person they’ve been talking to online for the first time, so being on your dating A game is crucial to your future relationship.
First and foremost is your grooming. If you show up to the date looking anything less than your best, then you might as well not show up at all. This is your only time to make a first impression, and trust me, you want them to remember you looking your best. This doesn’t just include looking nice, but smelling nice and even feeling nice as well. When you go in for a hug, the last thing you want them to feel is stubble graze their face! Grooming the little things like facial hair and eyebrows is just as important as wearing an appropriate outfit and smelling nice. You don’t want to wear a cocktail dress if you’re going mini putting, and you don’t want to smell like you dumped the entire bottle of perfume on yourself if you’re going to be in an enclosed space. Keeping everything both appropriate and attractive is key to your appearance.
Once they see you, you have to be aware of what comes out of your mouth. No one wants to hear your life story on your first time meeting! Gauge the situation and only talk about things that seem fit. If you’re having a great, fun conversation, there’s no need to bring up how sad you were when you dog died last year, or how your parents divorce had you depressed when you were in high school. Keep your talking to witty antidotes that relate to the topic at and, and remember to not over share!
Although you want to show your best self, you don’t want to show a ‘best’ that’s simply not you. Show your true colors so they know what they’re going to see when they date you in the future! This is especially important if you’re going out with someone you met on an online dating site. You want to be the same person they’ve been talking to. It will make the date feel more natural and will probably rid you both of first date jitters!
If you keep your calm on your first date, be presentable and show your best you, you’ll make a great first impression!
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