First Date Tips For Online Daters
Whether you’re chatting with a someone from a mainstream dating site, an adult dating site or a gay dating site, it makes no difference when going on a first date. While the end goal might be a tad different, the logistics are all the same; you want to make sure everything goes smoothly so you get a second date, you get laid, you get an end of the night kiss, you have an exit straggly if it’s a bust, etc.
So! In order to ensure that your goals are met you must pan things our PROPERLY so that things go the way you want them to.
And the only way to do this is to follow these simple steps:
Meet sooner rather than later:
Sure, online dating is a great way to MEET people, not a great way to get to know someone. Start off by sending a few messages back and fourth but don’t wait too long before you ask them to meet in person; it’s a waste of time! The only way to truly tell if you’re going to connect is in person, so don’t be a chicken shit. See if you have anything in common, and then ask her out!
Don’t think of it as a date:
When you’re chatting with someone online, they might seem like the coolest, wittiest person ever. Remember that when you’re sending messages, you have time to come up with a clever response. So, keep that in mind when you meet in person. They might not be what you’re expecting. Therefore, don’t think of it as an actual date. Think of it as a pre-date/interview to see if you want to go with them on a real date.
Don’t share too much personal information ad pick a public place so that in case things turn sour, you’re not with this freak in a dark alley somewhere. If things do go well, use your judgement. If you think bringing them home is a good idea, go for it! Just make sure you have a friend you can update on your whereabouts. You’d rather be safe than sorry!
Listen and ask questions:
This is your chance to really get to know this person! Listen to what they have to say. Then you can ask appropriate questions depending on the topic of conversation. It will show that you’re interested and that you actually care what they have to say. Plus, if they say something absorb, you’re going to want to remember it so you know to never go out with them again.
If you’re a dude, than I’m sorry, but it is your duty to pay. If she offers to pay, say NO! I don’t care if you never want to see this chick again, you still have to pay fellas.
If you had a good time on your date, make sure you follow up. Don’t do this immediately after the date. I would say your best bet is to send a quick text or email the next day just to remind the person that you had a good time. This will set the tone that you want to see them again. Even if you end up having sex with this person, and you want to do it again, you should send a follow up text. If you never want to see them again, you don’t have to say anything. That;s the beauty of online dating.
Some experts say that even if you’re not interested in the person, you should let them know this. I completely disagree. Of course you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but you don’t have to see them again if you don’t want to, no explanation needed!
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