How Fast Is Too Fast?

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The Average courtship for couples who meet offline is 42 months. The same average for couples who meet online is only 18.5. Online relationships progress faster then others because both parties enter into it with the same intentions. Instead of having people who just want to keep things casual and waiting for it eventually to turn into something, you have two people who are both actively looking for a serious relationship.

When you’re on the fast track to from ‘We just started talking online,’ to ‘We’re in a serious relationship,’ how do you know if it’s going too fast?

Khloe and Lamar knew each other for only 9 months before walking down the isle

You should always look at personal history first– Yours and theirs. Do you both have a history of jumping into relationships? If you do, evaluate how they work out. If history shows that you can both handle dating quickly, then you have nothing to worry about. If you two both get into them fast and get out of them fast, then you should consider pumping the breaks. Make plans to talk less often, and shorten the conversations you do have so you don’t get into intense or emotional topics too often.

Once you know the history, take a look at the now. What are both your lives like? Are you only getting into this quickly because you have nothing else going on and want something to concentrate on, or do you both have full lives and are getting involved because you’re genuinely interested in each other ? When you’re only progressing things because the rest of your life is at a stand-still, then you’re setting yourself up for an unhealthy relationship.

Lastly you have to evaluate your compatibility. Why is it you’re getting so serious so fast? And is this the kind of person you could see yourself with longterm? If it’s not, then investing such strong feelings is a bad idea, regardless of how fast or short you’ve been together.

When you go from online dating to a serious offline relationship quickly, always make sure you’re doing it with the right person, and for the right reasons!