It’s no secret that breaking up is hard to do. And when you’re in the type of relationship where you’re only sort of dating the person, it can be even harder because you don’t exactly know which route to take when it comes to breaking up with them.
I recently found myself in this exact situation and I was SO confused on what to do. So I just went for it the way I thought was most appropriate and it was HORRIBLE! If only there was a guide that broke down every situation and then revealed the best way to break up with someone based on that specific situation”¦
Well, I don’t want any of you to go through what I went through, so I’m going to break it down, right here, right now.
When you are casually dating someone and you’re thinking of breaking it off, there is two ways of going about this; you can either ignore them or you can explain to them the situation. Now, this poses the question: when it comes to casual dating, is silence better than rejection?
Let’s break it down:
The Fade Out
This is when your conversations become less frequent, the text messages stop coming, and you eventually stop talking all together.
Pros: You don’t have to have that awkward and dreadful “talk” and both parties eventually get the point that it’s over.
Cons: It’s cowardly and immature and leaves the other person wondering what they did wrong and there is no closure.
This is when you talk to the person, either face to face or on the phone, and you basically say “thanks, but no thanks”
Pros: This is what mature adults do. It shows that you respect them enough to explain to them (in short) why it’s not going to work and it wont leave anyone hanging on to something that’s not there.
Cons: No one likes rejection; it hurts! You will probably feel bad and feel like you hurt the person’s feelings.
Is there a perfect solution?
There is no perfect solution, but I have found the best way to go about breaking up with someone you have been casually dating is to:
Wait for them to contact you.
And if they don’t then it makes things easier on you. It confirms that you’re both ok with the Face Out and ultimately it’s the best possible outcome.
If/Once they do contact you, you have to respond and you have to eventually tell them what’s up.
Say something along the lines of “I’m really sorry, but I don’t think we should talk or see each other anymore. It’s just not working out for me and it’s been fun, but I think we should call it a day”. The best way to do this is either on the phone, or even via text message. Of course it will be a bit awkward, but eventually the awkwardness will go away and it will feel like you’ve lifted weight off your shoulders.