When you get to know someone online, they have a tendency to be more honest than they would if you were getting to know them in an offline situation. I often talk about how people use the computer as a safety blanket online. They let their guard down because they aren’t physically around the other person to see their reactions to topics, which makes them feel free to be truthful and honest.
Talking about cheating in the real world may lead to people downplaying their envelopment in it because they don’t want to see the disapproving looks from others. If you get to the topic online, you’re likely to be faced with much more honest answers. So when you ask someone about their past fidelity and realize they don’t have the cleanest record, should you judge them on it?
Statistics show that people who have cheated in the past have close to an 80% ‘relapse’ rate, meaning they cheat again. Of course, the only way you can judge someones dating habits is to actually date them, but you knowing that someone has cheated in the past should be taken with a grain of salt, and as a giant red flag.
Online datingis a great opportunity to ask the questions you want honest answers about, but you should be aware of the repercussions those answers can carry. Knowing that someone has cheated before may not mean they’re going to cheat on you given the chance, but it could be the difference between having and not having trust in them.
The saying ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater,’ has solid grounds, so be aware of their actions and intentions, and make sure they’ve learned from their past mistakes.