Online Success: When To Cancel Your Account


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My friends, if I ask one thing of you it’s to please– PLEASE– take this advice. When you’ve finally found someone you’re happy with online, remember to delete your account.

I like to think I’m a good boyfriend. When I’m in relationships, my attention and focus is on the person I’m with. Except this one time.

I had been on online dating sites for about three months when I started talking to Karen. When she first messaged me, I was blown away. Her profile had everything I was interested in, she had proper grammar and a great conversation starter in her first message, and her profile picture was the prettiest thing I have ever seen in my life. I thought she was too good to be true, but after talking to her for about 6 weeks, we met in person and she was everything I was expecting and more. We lived in different cities at the time, so we didn’t get to see each other very often, but when we did, it was great. At the time we were ‘seeing’ each other, Facebook wasn’t yet a thing, so we would continue to talk over the free dating website we met on.

This went on for about 8 months before she got a promotion and was transferred to Toronto. Now that we were in the same town, we quit our internet relationship and jumped into one in the real world. I was a little timid at first because I thought changing our perfect relationship would make things different between us, but it only got better.

By the time we moved in together, we had been dating for over a year and a half. Things were still great and by the looks of it, were getting better by the week.

Until Halloween.

We were trying to decide what to be for our friends Halloween costume party and couldn’t come up with anything. I was trying to convince her to go as Wilma and Fred since I already had the Fred costume from a few years back, so she wanted to see it. I couldn’t find the costume so I just Googled myself in it because I knew the picture was online. When I clicked on the picture link, it went to my old dating profile which was still activated, and man did she go off. I hadn’t used it since we stopped using it to communicate, but she didn’t seem to care. She was so angry that I was still perceived on the internet as single that she didn’t talk to me for days. when she finally came around, the first thing she did was demand I delete my account.

What did I care? I hadn’t used it in forever so it wasn’t going to be a problem. Or so I thought. When I went to delete the account, out of pure curiosity, I went to my inbox to see what kind of messages I had been getting and to my surprise, I was still currently getting new notes. I opened one to see what it had to say, and it was the same feelings I had when I first talked to Karen. The girl looked amazing, and I was a little sad that I was missing out on her.

That’s when I did something stupid. I changed the name on my account so Karen couldn’t see it and started messaging this girl back. Time went by, emotions were invested, and I could feel myself sinking further into this hole, but I figured as long as Karen didn’t know, it didn’t matter.

Well let me tell you something, my friends. I’m an idiot. I went to work one day and left my account page open on my computer, which I kept in the living room, which was in my house, which I shared with Karen. That day I got a tear filled phone call from her saying that she read the messages and there was no explaining, she was leaving.

I ruined everything we built because I didn’t delete my account when I didn’t need it anymore. If you find someone online, don’t let temptation grab a hold of you. Delete your account and move on. you’re one of the lucky ones now, so you don’t need to be spending your time searching for something better. You have something good and you need to realize it! If a time comes when you wouldn’t want the person you met online to be talking to someone else, make sure you have respect and do the same.

About the guest blogger:
Louis Price

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