Rebound. To basketball fans, it’s something LeBron James does perfectly. To newly single individuals, it’s that painful stage where you’re dating someone new only to realize that you don’t really like them, you just wanted to be with someone. Are rebounds a bad thing? Absolutely not! When it comes to getting over someone you’ve broken up with, drastic measures sometimes have to be taken. Going on a solo vacation, having a life change like a big haircut, sleeping with the bartender that’s been flirting with you all night…
The first rule of the rebound is that you need to give yourself enough time to know it’s really over. If your significant other breaks up with you in a weekly hissy fit, then it’s probably not a good idea for you to go out and sleep with someone else. You need to give yourself enough time to know that your break up is official. If you think there’s a chance you’re going to get back together, then you’re going to have trust issues and other repercussions to deal with that simply aren’t worth it.
If you have assessed your situation and realize that the old relationship with the person you were dating is definitely 6 feet under, then really think about how a rebound is going to help you. Will being intimate and physical with someone else help you with the healing process, or will it make you nostalgic for your old relationship? If you think that you’re mentally prepared to sleep with someone else, then make sure you choose that somebody carefully.
Rebounds should never be friends or friends of your ex. Almost 85% of the time, rebound relationships last less than a year. You don’t want to ruin a friendship just because you needed a distraction from the way you feel about your breakup. Instead, try turning to online dating to find someone new. It’s the easiest way to meet new people, and there’s always users searching for different relationships- short term, one night stands, and even people to help them with their own rebound quest.
When it comes down to it, rebounding is all about being smart. Should you sleep with the best friend that’s lending you a crying shoulder? Hell no. Should you take home your friends friends brother? Sure, why not! Choose your target carefully and always protect your emotions.