When you’ve signed up for an online dating site, you are required to try and get to know other members via instant message or email and we all know it’s sometimes hard to decipher certain tone of voice, body language, etc. when you are speaking with someone on these mediums.
I hate to say it, but a lot of men and women talk a lot of game behind a computer screen when they are online dating, but when it comes down to the actual dating – going for that coffee, or meeting at that hotel room, or having those cocktails – you can often get played around with and essentially blown off. It can be hard to tell when you’re being blown off and this is definitely something you’re going to want to know how to decipher when you’re online dating because it can waste a lot of your valuable time.
So, if you find yourself chatting with someone online and you think she/he might be interested in dating you, but you’re not 100% sure, here are a few tip-offs that tell you it’s time to move on and to try your shot at dating another member on the site:
- They always make excuses as to why they “can’t make it” or “want to re-schedule” the date. When you are getting to know each other online, people usually set a time to talk. If they don’t set a time to instant message, they get back to an email promptly. After having a great conversation, they usually decide to take it offline. If the person you’re talking to is constantly missing the set time to talk, doesn’t get back to you promptly, and/or makes excuse not to start dating, or for missing a date you set up, they’re probably not that into you. So, don’t bother wasting your time.
- They forget things you tell them. Why is it you’ve had to mention three times that you have kids when you’ve already told countless stories about them? And why can’t they seem to remember where you work, even though you talk about it every day? If they forget everything you tell them, it’s because they weren’t listening that hard to begin with and clearly don’t really care what you have to say.
- It’s all about ‘me’. If they’re treating you more like a therapist than a shoulder to lean on, then they’re taking advantage of your time. People who are genuinely interested in dating you will put effort into making the relationship a two-way street, where both of you get equal attention and you both depend on each other to listen, to give advice, etc. If they make no efforts to listen to and understand your problems, then they are not that into you.
- They have no interest in your friends, family or personal life. People who are interested in potentially dating you are going to want to know about your personal life and what is important to you. Now, things can differ greatly if you are talking to someone on an adult dating site as opposed to a mainstream dating site. You may not be talking about your family or friends with them, but regardless, they should be interested in what you are willing to share about your life.
So, if you find yourself talking to someone online who fits into any of these 4 different descriptions, you should probably re-evaluate the situation and figure out if it’s really in your best interest to potentially waste your time attempting to date someone who’s probably just not into you.